But if when you talk about being gay being something "worth considering," you mean you think it's something you need to consider just because you're interested in anal sex, or just because you think you're supposed to, then know you certainly don't have to. When many of us think about whether or not we might be queer, it's not usually an intellectual exercise, or something we consider because, in general orientation as something to consider holds merit. It's usually something people consider and question because of internal feelings they have that suggest to them they are or might be.If you want to try and get a better sense of what your orientation is, rather than focusing on what parts of your body you might want to explore sexually or what groups of people you don't feel comfortable around, what you want to look at is what groups of people, on individuals, you tend to feel sexual or romantic attraction to; what groups of people or individuals yo